Isn’t it amazing how sometimes the sun dawns upon every façade and makes it see-through. Sooner or later, every human being resorts to his/her natural form, and if not, others will still starting seeing through. What you really are can never be hidden for too long.
I have always felt like authenticity is the greatest virtue, and the easiest. Isn’t it too much work to conjure up a projected version of oneself and uphold it with everyone? I wonder if such people ever end up truly confused about their own true identity – do they know they’re holding up a façade or do they assume that their projected identity is their reality?
Regardless, I am at a point in life where some facades that I have been predicting to crumble have crumbled, and now everyone is talking about how they were fooled. I do not want to gloat but it’s a strange kind of relief to know that the truth eventually always comes out and there is hope left in the world for good.
A lot of boomer and Gen X parents have fumbled big time raising their kids with a sense of self respect and security. The absence of self-assurance makes people behave in ways that don’t align with their true self and it causes more trouble to the people near them than to themselves. It’s an undeserved punishment to have to deal with unhealed people who do not realize they need help, and act defensive when they’re given a hint. As a veteran in this regard, my small advice is to put our saviour complex away and simply stay put until the person in question approaches a point in life where healing is their only way forward. But let me tell you – the chances of that happening and almost none so we must be prepared to live with it and keep our guards up. Honestly, saviour complex can put us more at risk than simply staying put and being annoyed by them.
Well, I’m one of the lucky ones to have lived to see the day (multiple times, actually) when facades came down. I have neither a sense of triumph nor sympathy in connection to the circumstance; just relief. Nothing truly changes for me, but I have a reassurance that just like good things, bad things don’t last either.
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